Couples Therapy

Couples Therapy

Conflict is an opportunity to learn to love our partner better over time. – Dr. Julie Gottman

I have been told often in my life that conflict cannot be avoided; if we chose to avoid conflict in our relationships, ultimately we are creating it within our own Self. That doesn’t make it any easier, however, and sometimes we need a third pair of ears to help us understand what is happening in our most valued relationship. Whether you feel distant from your partner and not sure how to “fix it’ or you’ve been stuck in painful conflict for as long as you can remember, therapy can be beneficial in making movement toward the relationship you’re hoping to have.

As a therapist who believes in the power of story, I work with couples to identify what narratives they are telling themselves and their partners about the relationship and the value they give it. Through in-session conversations about their relationship, I work with my clients to create experiences of connection and understanding; it is one of my highest priorities as a therapist.

I am strongly influenced by the work of Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman, as well as the work of Dr. Susan Johnson. Each of these professionals has contributed greatly to the field of mental health and the betterment of couple relationships through building intentional connection in the little moments as well as the big. I often reference their work with clients and suggest their books for personal reading.

My experience as a Prepare|Enrich facilitator has equipped me to work with couples who are considering engagement or marriage and want to dig deeper into their decision to couple. From time to time I hear spouses say, “I wish I would have asked him/her about…before we got married”; Prepare|Enrich strives to create relationship curriculum that allows space for conversation about things you may not think about before committing to your partner. I work through this curriculum in session to help client’s better understand their personal capability with their partner.

For more information about couples therapy, feel free to reach out to me at ashley@ashleybarrettmft.com.